How They Do It with Lori

Hello.  I’m Lori.  The middle of the sisters Meyer.

I’m the mom of a very busy almost two year old.  He’s so verbal and vibrant. He’s a total goof… and a total BOY.  He started walking at 10 months and hasn’t sat down since. We have our routines and we pretty much stick to them.

My husband is very helpful, totally hands on and I am thankful for that.  How do moms do it without a support team?!?  We’re also very fortunate to have both sets of grandparents living within 35 minutes.  Sometimes grandparents can be real lifesavers.

I feel like for the last 4 years my life has been on fast forward.  We bought a house, got married, had a kid and we both recently switched jobs.  I guess things were starting to get comfortable so… I decided to start graduate school this fall.  It is only one weekend a month for two years BUT by weekend, I mean Saturday 8:00am-5:00pm and Sunday 8:00am-4:00pm.  And let’s not forget the homework that comes along with this. Books on top of books on top of books.  So much reading. It is really hard for me to give up a whole weekend of family time.  When you work full-time, you know that the hours are few during the weekdays and that weekends are so precious. 

I have the luxury of not taking my work home with me.  I make a conscious effort and I’m very good at compartmentalizing my personal life and my professional life. This has helped me to be present when I’m with my family… for the most part… darn Instagram, gets me every time.  My husband hasn’t been so fortunate.  With his new job comes a lot more work.  He gets home late, he’s checking his email from home to get a jump start on the day and he’s more stressed. I think he’s still working on trying to find his personal/professional balance.  But he still finds time to empty the dishwasher, mow the lawn, take the garbage out, help with laundry and be a great dad.

Some different ways that I like to remind myself to stay sane…

Reading: I’ve gotten back into reading now that Summer is winding down.  Even if I can only keep my eyes open for 10 minutes before I fall asleep, I’m probably reading.  Books I’ve read and loved lately:

The Goldfinch by Donna Tartt
This is Where I Leave You by Jonathan Tropper (the movie was pretty hilarious)
Me Before You by Jojo Moyes

I’m also pretty into the blog scene. Some of my must-check-daily reads are:

Oh Happy Day!
A Cup of Jo
Say Yes
Camp Patton

Making Time for Friends: For the last few years I have been a part of a book club and a bible study.  Book club is once a month.  It is with an awesome group on women.  We are able to get together and have uninterrupted conversations about anything and everything.  Everything usually tends to come back to our kids… but that’s great because everyone has been there and done that.  So much free advice and in a judgement free zone!  The beer doesn’t hurt either.

I love my bible study because it only runs 6-8 weeks in the fall.  The group of women range from late twenties to retired.  Some of these women are so wise.  They can put things into a whole new perspective. 

House Projects: I’m a homebody so when I am spending all of my free time in my home, I want it to look and feel good. Plus, I like the creativity and imagination it involves.  And the overall transformation of space.

Time Apart: My husband and I spend plenty of time together but we both believe it is healthy to spend time apart.  Like I mentioned above, I’m in a book club and bible study.  My husband gets together with friends every Monday.  This time apart is a great way to recharge.  I don’t take my husband for granted and I think this has really helped with that.

Junk Bonanza 2014

Routine: Routine is huge in our house.  I would say that our son has loosely been on a routine since day one.  We wake up around the same time every day, he eats breakfast, lunch, snack, and dinner at roughly the same time every day.  We always do bath, story and bedtime at the same time.  For our family, this works.  It really helped in the beginning when trying to determine what baby needed.  It’s nice when it’s time for bed and you don’t have to deal with a melt down or when someone is babysitting.  I’ve also gotten into the routine of running errands over my lunch break.  Sometimes it is easier to do it then so you’re not wasting all that time.  I’d rather run through piles of leaves with my son after work then push him around in a shopping cart. Plus, it’s way easier to run in quick and get what you need because we all know nothing is quick when it comes to kids!

We definitely don’t always know what we’re doing but we are learning.  In the past I was a huge worrier.  Over time and with age and experience, I’ve learned to take it one day at a time.  I have also learned that talking it out with someone really helps.  So, if you are feeling stressed, call your mom or a friend or talk to your significant other.  Maybe they can offer you some advice or help out.  Surrounding yourself with a great support system is key.  Or, when I feel jealousy creeping in or start playing the comparison game, I take the time to truly think of all the amazing things that make up my life.  Those things are practically endless :]

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